Some people spend a lot of time thinking and talking about their pasts. It seems like most people either spend their conversations on “the good old days” of remembering a happier time in their lives (or) reflecting or complaining about decisions they did or didn’t make. We often hear people blaming others for their suffering or their circumstances in life and making claims that this is why they are who they are today. Many people don’t get beyond their pasts. If you take the time to listen to people, you’ll hear that many, many people talk about their pasts most of the time.
I try not to look back that much these days. I spent YEARS doing that, agonizing over decisions I’d made or hadn’t made, regretting this or that and doing a whole lot of writing of both poetry and music in the meantime. I’ve learned that thinking too much about the past is not a helpful way to live if you’re looking for personal growth and change and exciting adventures in your life. In fact, it’s a barrier to moving on to bigger and better things!
Poetry and writing songs have always been an outlet of ‘therapy’ for me. I always felt better when I had all my feelings down in writing or in a song. Sometimes, I’d just “imagine” a feeling and write about it. I started writing poetry at age 9 and songs (both music and lyrics) at age 12. These outlets of expression were growing periods for me. I learned a lot over the years through my music and poetry.
Since I am about walking in love and not dwelling on the past, I debated whether or not to post some of my songs and poetry on my website as I don’t want to make anyone depressed! But then I remembered what a dear soul, Nancy, taught me about feelings and how they are an important part of who we are; that they are to be dealt with and there is usefulness in working through these feelings to move oneself into a better place.
So, in the interest of loving others, I am and will continue to post some of my old poetry and lyrics on my website. As I publish some of this old stuff on Helium.com, I will try to write the year that I wrote it. I won’t publish everything but you get the idea.
What do you have to learn from your past? Are you stuck in blaming someone for how your life is now? Are you feeling sad and angry at yourself that you didn’t make a different decision in life? Are you still angry with someone who hurt you? Whatever it is, try to find a way to express it, with the intention of letting it all go as a learning process. Feel good about letting it out and even better about what is to come!