I’m Tickled It’s Tuesday

Few Laughs Away quoteNo, it’s not yet Tuesday, but for some time now, I’ve played with words to feel good and have fun on Facebook. I take the day of the week and label it with something fun. My favorite is “Tickled Tuesdays” so I’ve decided to have my Giggle Fest & Manifest! calls on Tuesdays.

While they won’t be every Tuesday, they will always fall on a Tuesday (with the exception of any end of the year blessings call). I do these calls as part of Good Vibe University calls and if you don’t know about this community, you should check us out!  It’s a wonderful community of fellow deliberate creators created by Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach. To join in on my giggling calls or to listen to past calls, go to the “About” page or click below to take you to the TalkShoe site.

Giggle Fest & Manifest!

It’s only a half hour but guaranteed to raise your vibe. hee hee 🙂

I Appreciate My Life

How much and often are you appreciating YOUR life each day? I made this video to remind myself and others of the beautiful power of appreciation and love. EnJOY!

Love in a Fortune Cookie

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We often order Chinese food in my job and share our fortunes from the cookies with each other. It’s almost like a fun competition to see who chooses the best one. But lately, the fortune cookie sayings have been a bit negative with words of warning in them. It’s been so noticeable that we’ve joked around how we could make a lot of money writing our own uplifting lines for Chinese restaurants. 
But the Chinese place that I love that’s in my neighborhood always has really good fortunes in it. On a recent purchase, here’s the gem that was inside of my cookie: 
“To love and be loved is like feeling the sun from both sides.”  

Isn’t that lovely? Doesn’t it just feel really good? Why is that such a “feel good” fortune? Because we all know how the sun feels warm against our skin, how the energy of its light makes things grow and to feel it around us from both sides warms our hearts – just like giving and receiving love.
But we don’t have to wait to order Chinese food to come up with our own good fortunes. We can each do that ourselves by choosing our words carefully, selecting loving thoughts or by expressing beautiful affirmations that feel good. Or, we could just choose to BE love and that would do it!
What’s your “feel good” fortune for today?

Finding the Positive in the Midst of Pain

Editor’s Note: This post was first published almost five years ago and our relationship survived. If you’re a writer like me, you might find it helpful to go back and re-visit old posts for the insights and reminders they bring to look at a present situation in a “renewed” way. 

Journey of A Spirited Strider: Finding the Positive in the Midst of Pain: When we are hurt and in pain because of a personal relationship, it may seem impossible to see the positive of our situation. After time, we…

When Things Suck: A Glimpse Into “Allowing” A Break-Up

I know we’ve all had times in our lives when we feel as if things “suck.” I’m actually going through that now as it pertains to my relationship with someone I love very much. We have apparently broken up. I say “apparently,” because I’m still feeling shocked by it all and in disbelief. We had a great relationship. We always had so much fun! We loved each other passionately, joyfully, playfully and the feelings were alive. We could be who we are, without judgment, and allow each other the freedom to be ourselves and love, play, laugh and live life well! That was how I felt about “us.” This is how God (or Source) sees each and everyone of us everyday. 

Yet we’re human, and neither of us is seeing each other as God would see us right now and I’m certainly not seeing myself as Source sees me. When things don’t go the way we want them to in a relationship, (which recently happened in our case), it’s easy to place blame, point fingers at the other person, throw out accusations about how the other person didn’t act the way you wanted them to act, and judge. We judge our partner and each other. We judge ourselves. That is not a loving place to be in, yet why do we continually do this to ourselves? Why do we set ourselves up for disappointment by making what our partner does or doesn’t do, says or doesn’t say, the object of our happiness?– Can someone say “attachment” anyone?

We set ourselves up for disappointment by buying into that “ideal relationship” that many parts of society paint (or at least the part of our head or heart that imagines the ‘ideal’ relationship) and what happens? –The other person always disappoints. They disappoint because we can’t control other people: we can only control ourselves. They disappoint because we are different individuals who see and feel things in our own unique ways.

No one person is like you in every way! If I were involved with a guy who was exactly the same as me, I’d probably get bored really fast! So why would I expect someone else to act, be and approach the world in the same way as me? I don’t. Yet, in relationships with a partner, we often do expect the other person to react the same as we would!

Differences can be a good thing: they keep us growing, expanding and exploring this beautiful world in which we live. So if you’re complaining that your partner doesn’t see things your way, be glad that you’ve got someone in your life who contributes to your personal growth expansion by providing you with another point of view! I’m very appreciative of this man in my life:  he has enriched my life in so many ways, and often because of our differences.

Yet appreciating those differences can be a challenge during a “break-up,” “a fight” or otherwise while not understanding each other so well. It’s the differences in how we react to day-to-day things that often start disagreements and arguments in relationships. When that happens, things can really suck! We can spiral into a series of accusations, judgments, arguments and may use hurtful words. Then we run off to talk to our best friend and re-tell the story, over and over again, igniting the fire of the hurt, blame, judgment and sadness feelings even more. Now we’re really on a downward spiral, because we keep telling the story over and over again. And if you’re not one to talk to others, you probably have re-told the story over and over again in your mind, so your heart definitely feels it.

I’m reminded now of my all-time favorite quote from Abraham-Hicks: “My happiness depends upon me, so you’re off the hook!” I love that quote and I know in my soul that it’s true. I am in charge of my own happiness. I get to choose. I choose to appreciate this contrast (the break-up that I don’t want) and use this situation to align with my inner being and have the best year yet!

Yet right now, my relationship with the one that I love very much sucks. Yes, it sucks! It sucks because I disappointed him, and then he disappointed me and now it apparently is over.  You see? We both bought into that “You have to do ________(Fill in the blanks) to make me happy” mentality. In fact, because I didn’t do ________, he wasn’t happy with me and because he didn’t respond to me like __________, after I explained why I didn’t do _________ when he wanted me to ________,  I wasn’t happy with him.

See how ridiculously funny this is? Haha! Seeing it as a “fill in the blank” exercise illustrates just how silly we are to think we can control someone else. I can laugh about this but the truth is I miss him. I miss him because in our relationship, the love that flowed brought out the best in me: fun, caring, kind, loving, passionate, silly, playful, engaging, creative, inspiring, present and connected. That is worth appreciating.

Yet I’m not feeling that way about me right now. Can someone say “attachment” again, please? I have to “allow” me to be ME: all those qualities that our love brought up in ME. I have to allow those in again, without the NEED for the relationship. Tricky stuff.

I write this here because it feels good for me to do so (and I know that following my “feel good” is the way to aligning with my true self!) I intend that readers who are drawn to read my words will find benefit from it. While I am a person who helps others with tools and tips for living a more positive, joyful life, I am having a challenge being joyful about this break-up. It’s not what I want, so I’m determined to use the tools that I know to get myself into a “feel better” place as I go through this. I am intending that I’ll get so good at appreciating this contrast of breaking up, that I can love him and myself by “allowing” the break-up: no need, no attachment to outcome, and whether we reconcile won’t matter anymore because divine love will be what I feel and appreciate in this situation. In other words, if I see myself, him and our relationship as God or Source sees us, then I’ve paved the way to seeing us as we truly are: magnificent beings living a life that’s supposed to be fun and filled with love: with or without each other as a “couple.”

What I know will serve me is this: releasing the need for this relationship in my life, the attachment to him specifically as my “way to happiness,”  the  “need” for his love: and the more I can allow, the better I will feel! Will we get back together? Perhaps….Perhaps not…. But letting go of the attachment of our relationship as the key to my happiness IS the key to my own happiness!  I can be happy by myself, thank you!

Abraham-Hicks says that when we are so conscious of “what is” and when “what is” doesn’t feel good, it is helpful to get more generally negative about the situation to move ourselves into alignment to a better feeling place. So that’s why I’m calling this post “When Things Suck: A Glimpse Into ‘Allowing’ A Break-Up.” I’m moving my vibe more generally negative (as opposed to re-telling the specifics of what happened). So here’s my rant:

This really sucks! I hate when things suck. It sucks to feel this way. This whole situation sucks. I don’t like it at all because it sucks! Yet I’ve had other “sucky” situations before and they didn’t stay “sucky” forever. Things did get better in the past so they can get better now.  This won’t always suck. Not everything in my life sucks. In fact, many things in my life don’t suck at all! Eventually this situation will move from “sucky” to “hopeful.” I know what to do – I’ve done it before…..but right now it sucks and I’m not liking it. My future is filled with all kinds of goodies and here I sit, sad about this situation. If only I could find my way to turn this sucker around! What if I knew exactly what to do with this sucker?


LOL  Ok, that made me laugh. 🙂 There’s hope in this sucker afterall…


Imagine! Can you?

Today I’m reminded that it is John Lennon’s birthday. He would have been 71 years old. In what is one of my favorite songs, “Imagine,” John envisioned a world that lived in harmony and peace – where the world would live as one – a brotherhood of man…

Can you imagine? I know I can! What dreams are you imagining and creating? Don’t stop imagining! Imagination is such a beautiful and useful tool in deliberate creation. (And a whole lot of fun, too!)

My Newest Video: You Can Do Anything!

I was inspired this weekend to do a new video. It’s called You Can Do Anything! and is based on the “Art of Allowing” by Abraham-Hicks. Hope you enjoy it!

And for those who’ve asked where to buy the song, you can get it on Amazon!

You Can Do Anything!

This weekend’s inspiration resulted in my newest video. It’s a little over 3 minutes long and designed to get you to feel good (which is really practicing the “Art of Allowing” in Abraham-Hicks language!) Hope you enjoy it!

Appreciating What Is and Loving It for Change

So many teachers remind us of the importance of love and being loving if we want to better the world and ourselves.

Here are a few:

“Step number one for changing the entire world, is falling in love with it as it already is. The same is true for changing yourself.”
Mike Dooley

“Be the change you want to see in the world. “
Ghandi

“The only way to have a friend is to be one.”  
Ralph Waldo Emerson

How are you seeing the world you’re in right now? And what words do you use to describe yourself in all of it?

If you want more friends, be a friend to someone. If you’re wanting more abundance, start appreciating the abundance that is already in your life and give generously, without expectation of a return. When you operate in a state of love, joy and appreciation, you cannot help but attract more joy and love in your life.

So what kind of change are you seeking to see in the world? What kinds of changes do you want to make in yourself? Find that place in love and joy by appreciating what is (both in the world and in yourself) on a regular basis and you’ll see your life change.